My 14 Biggest Life Lessons- Life Advice for Millennials

 

 

Yesterday was a special day as I turned another year older, 😭and hopefully am little wiser 😉so while I can’t stop father time anytime soon, I thought I’d share some of the biggest life lessons I learned so far in my fair amount of time on this earth. This is in particularly a great read for younger girls (and guys) who are still trying to find their place in this world.

Let me start off by saying thank you for those of you who have always been reading, supporting, and even acknowledging this blog and my other content be it Instagram, and other forms of social media. I believe the small group of people I have in my tribe are truly amazing and have become some of my friends in this short amount of time. 😊

Gosh, I remember 10 years ago, I didn’t really know what direction my life was heading to, I just graduated from college, trying so bad to “make it” and “be successful” and at that time I remember being disappointed and getting depressed when none of those things came easily and in an instant. I wanted to come tell my younger self now that it’s okay to be this way at that time of my young adulthood. It’s okay to not be good at everything you try to do, It’s okay not to get every job you apply for, and that everything will be okay. There are seasons for everything, for we are just like roses that bloom in different times of the year, some bloom once a year, some in the spring and fall and some are repeat bloomers.

 

 

This might be a bit of a read, but trust me for my younger peeps out there, your future self will thank you later. 🤗So here are my 14 biggest life lessons, I hope you learn something new today! 😉And let me know on the comments what are the biggest life lessons you learned so far! I’d love to know! 😍

 

Prioritize Health Above Everything Else. 

In this day and age where everyone has a go-get-it-do-it-now-or-never attitude when in comes to work, school and play, it’s rare that we take time to ourselves, slow down and have more self care activities. I am guilty of this, with me just feeling stressed when I don’t do everything, check off all the tasks on my lists and newsflash- it’s hard! I constantly have my plate full with a full-time job, this blog, doing social media, and in between that having a life, a husband and starting a business to boot 😩It’s a lot. This last couple of months I definitely felt it’s effects on my health and have learned to take time to myself and de-stress. Without your good health girl, you are limiting yourself. Take time to take care of yourself first so you can care for others and do the things you love-for a long time.

 

Hustle, Work Hard, Save a lot and Invest as much as you can.

Nothing comes easy, if you thought money grew trees, they don’t. I find that a lot of younger people I am encountering these days have a notion that everything will just open up to them, opportunities are plenty and basically live an easy life while still doing things you want to do, on YOUR terms. Hellzz to the N-O. If there’s one thing I thank my past self for is it’s that when I first started making good money, meaning more than enough to cover the bills, I put every penny either to save it or invest it. I grew up not having a lot money so I value it. It’s not something that comes easy for most so I now I’m at a place where I can have choices and not worry where I am going to get next month’s rent, travel anywhere I want and buy things I want. Hustle and work hard, and save and invest while you are young so you can build the life of your dreams. Your future self will thank you for it. 😊

 

Take time to travel and experience another part of the world.

Material things are temporary, memories are forever. Make as much amazing memories as much as you can by widening your horizon and seeing new places and people. Travel is good for the soul. It really makes you grounded and helps you learn new things, have different experiences and not to mention, duh it’s fun! Also for my working gals out there it’s good to take a break from your routine, monotone environment. A good vacation always recharges you and who knows what tomorrow may bring, it may not even come. So don’t have regrets, take that trip you always wanted to take. No moolah? Save up for it. It will be so much worth it, trust me.

 

 

 

Show people you love them while you can. Spend the most time with your loved ones.

Enough said. Text and call your mom when she does. Tell your friend you love her and appreciate her. Show up on family parties. I know life can get hectic and busy and you probably want to skip this year’s Thanksgiving at Grandma’s because you just broke up with your boyfriend of 5 years. No more excuses. Just show up, be a big girl (or guy) and suck it up. It will not be forever so make sure to treasure these moments. I remember when I was in my early teens my Grandmother lived with us and we had a family potluck every Sunday. After being in about 15 million of them, I began to loathe it. I just wanted to curl up in my room and not have conversations with anybody especially since I was an awkward teen.  Now I miss it. My Grandma died and we just stopped doing it. Tell your parents, and loved ones how much you mean to them as much as you can. You don’t want to regret it.

 

Give all you can give- Do your absolute best in everything, but at the same time don’t beat yourself up when things don’t work out.

Want to audition for next season’s Bachelor? Go for it. Run a marathon? Do it. Give it all you got and don’t half-ass it. But if you weren’t able to meet your goal, don’t beat yourself up in the process. I am firm believer that everything happens for a reason and that there are no coincidences in this world. We are all put in this planet for purpose, but we are human and of course imperfect. After graduating college, I was doing modeling on the side and getting small jobs here and there. 90% of them were rejections. I felt like a failure after dozens of castings and all the no’s. After what seemed like forever, I decided to focus on my career and improve myself instead of sulking and being depressed. I met my future husband a year after. So you see, sometimes things don’t work out for a reason.

 

 

 

Treasure your relationships and get rid of toxic ones.

Let’s face it, in this life, we need to have good relationships whether it’s friends, family or your boyfriend. But sometimes we get sucked in with people who are generally not going to us any good, in short, toxic. My advise- get out asap. That if it’s possible, it might be harder if it’s a family member or a parent that’s really not doing you any good. When I was in college, I had this friend, Jan (not her real name) and I had known her since high school. We became really close during college years and leaned on each other all the time. Well at least that was what I thought. I realized throughout the course of our friendship, that she has always been sucking the life out me, using me for her own gain, while I really didn’t have any real friend at all. I decided to end the friendship and cut all ties, it wasn’t easy, but it did me soo much good. It made me grow as a person and made me realize who my true friends are. Warning though when you do what I did, when you do this, you can’t really undo it and make sure you think about the consequences that it may bring.

 

Skin Care Before Makeup.

I love makeup, and am obsessed with it, I’ll wear it everyday if I can! But I don’t. I realize being in my early 30’s that skin care should be prioritized rather than makeup because makeup will always be there, your face and your good skin won’t. Start early in incorporating a good skin care regimen to your night and day routine and you will see that you need to wear less makeup. Being the ever girly person that I am, I started early in the game, putting on eye cream in my early teens and sunscreen since I had lungs to breathe 😅😂Now in my age, people complement me on my skin and I find that flattering since I had acne in my puberty years. The older you get I think the more confident you are in showing your real self, and that includes a make-up free face😉

 

Love Deeply and Be Passionate with what you do. 

I believe that the universe conspires us to achieve the things we want to do, so if you bring so much love and passion for something or someone, it will love you back and make you a happier, well-rounded person. I know a lot women in this day and age who have turned their passions into full-time careers, and allowed their passions to take them places, move other people and truly make a difference in this world. From bloggers, life coaches, to youtubers and people who have podcasts. Trust me you will love life even more if you are truly passionate and love what you do.

 

Don’t worry too much, Be more positive.

Women are constant worriers. We worry about everything and anything. We need to stop really. Because sometimes it gets to a point where it’s causing us so much stress and anxiety that we can’t even enjoy life itself. Worried about that paper, that window that broke that needs to be fixed, your sick parent, your weight, your ever-single status since 2010,  etc. etc. We need to shut these doubts and fear by being more optimistic and positive. I believe that starts in knowing your self-worth. For when you know your self worth and what value you have to this world, the fear and doubts just disappears.

 

 

 

Take care of your parents.

Remember when you Dad used to carry you like nothing, and suddenly you become an adult and you realize that your parents are not the way you left them. Everyone ages, including a newborn baby, so of course they might depend on you. Love them and take good care of them, remember how much they cared for you as a child. They are not going to be here much longer so make the most out of it by showing them you care.

 

Forgive, but don’t forget.

To forgive is to break free and heal from toxic feelings of anger and hurt among others. I once heard that anger is one of the most damaging emotions out there. An analogy I heard about it explains it beautifully: when you are angry with someone, it’s like carrying one potato with you everywhere you go, and as your life goes on and more and more potatoes are added until you can no longer carry them and it becomes a burden. Forgive and let go, but remember the lessons you learned.

 

Marvel and enjoy the little things in life. 

In this rat race we live in, everything seems fast paced, and life just seems to go on at warp speed most of time. We forget (or intentionally do) to stop and smell the roses and slow down for a bit. We live in such a beautiful world but sadly it seems that we don’t even notice it for the most part. Take time to savor the little things in life and know what it feels like to truly be alive. Watch the sunset on the beach, listen to the birds sing and enjoy the sheer beauty of this earth from time to time. For you may not know if they will look the same tomorrow.

 

 

 

Stop comparing yourself to others and stay in your lane.

Being in social media, having an “online presence” means constantly being put under pressure to churn out great, amazing content every. Single. Damn. Day. And to make matters worse, sometimes we are valued as that little (or big) number next to our name, your following, your engagement etc. etc. It is honestly so freakin’ exhausting. Women in general are at risk of feeling vulnerable and keeping up with everyone with perfect hair, teeth, smile, perfect lives etc. As someone in this business I can understand the feeling of burnout and you can’t help but compare yourself with others sometimes (or everyday). But what we don’t see behind the scenes (or maybe we do see it) is how these people (bloggers, celebrities, youtubers etc) work EXTREMELY hard to try to produce bomb content all the time. These days I felt immense stress and pressure and posting on social media felt like a “chore.” So I had to stop and re-evaluate and really think why I do this, and the fact that I want to live a balanced offline life is a goal I wanted for myself this year. Lay off social media and do your own thing. It doesn’t matter what the girl next to you is doing, what matters is what YOU are doing.

 

Know what’s truly important, the rest are just fluff and loud noise.

The gloss of this highly materialized society is so astounding that people care too much about appearances rather than what’s inside them. Being smart or working in a prestigious company is not as important as being beautiful, ogled at, or famous. Money over abilities, packaging over performance. Face value over inner beauty. As a woman I have realized in the past few years that when it comes to inner happiness, what boils down are not any of this “fluff.” It’s not makeup, pretty clothes or trips. For me, I have small inner circle that I consider family and I’d like to keep it that way. I was raised with values and a strong moral foundation that most of this “stuff” are merely secondary to the people I care for and that’s what I value the most. Find your inner circle and prioritize what matters. Things are easily replaced. Memories and people couldn’t.

 

 

These are just some of the biggest life lessons I have learned so far, I hope you gained some new insights today and enjoyed this post. I know I did. For my younger Millennials out there, we are about to take over the world, (and we have started already) so hang on to your horses! 😉You may be experiencing hardships or difficulties at this time of your life, use this time to gain strength, know yourself better and who your true friends are. For this is certainly the ultimate path to success.

 

 

 

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